The articles that are combined on Enginneringlove.com were, in the year 2000, my first attempts to write about sex and love. I was still in my 20s at that time, and back then, I wasn't as used to communicating in English as I am now. While I corrected some spelling and gramatical errors, the articles are, by and large, unmodified. Like all of my older articles on sex and love, they address a male audience.

Other Articles


The engineering of love

Chasing and flattering


Language as sexual tool


What are we living for?


The benefits of jealousy


Sexual satisfaction


Love - it won't last


Neuropharmacological help


Love as neuromolecular constellation


Your wife... Cleopatra


Arranged marriages and sexual revolution


"Body count"


Negative feedback


The quality of orgasms


The quality of orgasms

Version 1.1

I hold that the ultimate purpose of life is for us to experience overwhelming orgasms. Everything else in life is subordinate to this mandate of nature.

You could call this a modified nihilist philosophy. I would say that it still elements of a nihilist philosophy because it doesn't put sense into anything that is outside our individual existence. We do not live to please a specific god, or for the sake of our children, and there is no meaning in an, however identified, common good. The only decision that makes philosophical sense is that we live to please ourselves, and orgasms are the ultimate pleasure.

There are a good number of aspects that play a role in orgasms, and their quality. I do believe that the science of sexology does not sufficiently differentiate between the qualities of orgasms. Orgasms aren't alike. Men can produce ejaculate as the result of laboring their sex organs, almost unaccompanied by sexual phantasies or sexual pleasure. They also can ejaculate almost involuntarily, purely as a result of psychological, not physiological stimulation. There is no doubt that the second kind of orgasms provides a much higher level of satisfaction.

Among the aspects that play a role in the quality of orgasms are those that are physiological, and those that are psychological.

In accordance with the materialistic principles of science, it has to be pointed out that even psychological aspects have their physiological equivalents. Jealousy, for example, is an emotion, but it also is a biochemical process. Nevertheless, I sort jealousy under psychological aspects because it has a mental expression. The health of my cardiovascular system, a precondition for good erections, does not have a primary mental expression... but nevertheless greatly influences the quality of my orgasms.

If I were to accept the loss of libido, the loss of sexual pleasure, or, in short, the general loss of quality of life that will creep into my life in a decade or so when I will reach my mid-life crisis, I as well plan for suicide. I'd really not know any longer for what to continue living... except maybe to dedicate my time to the research on how to reverse that unacceptable shit called aging.

Even now, barely beyond the age of 30, good orgasms no longer are self-understood. And because this is so unacceptable to me, I have been researching hard and experimenting a lot in order to restore my sexuality as that of a man at the age of 19.

I don't think that I am alone with this threat of loss of quality of life. The economic success of Viagra suggests otherwise, and so does the demand, in all societies on earth, for concoctions, herbal or chemical, that restore a man's libido to what it was when he was 19, or maybe in his mid-20s. I'm probably just, more than average, dedicated to solving the problem, and I'm probably also, more than average, willing to write honestly about the problem.

I don't believe in literature as an art of minting words. My idea of literature is that of an aide to understanding life, primarily my own life. Honesty, therefore, is a quality in itself. The world is full of wrong information, often minted in impressive language. Just take the bible as an example.

I am sure that the ultimate solution to the problem I am citing (the loss of excitement in orgasms) will first be pharmacological, than surgical, and finally genetical. It will not be psychological, and even less philosophical. When overcoming the loss of excitement in orgasms will be as easy as stopping by a pharmacy, there will no longer be any need for treatises as the one you are currently reading. Such essays will be as unnecessary as sessions with a psychotherapist for the purpose of overcoming depression. Ghee, go and buy yourself some Prozac.

I wish I could issue some equally simple prescriptions for overcoming the loss of excitement in orgasms, for example: Bored with your wife of 20 years? Ghee. go and get yourself a teenage replacement. This will sometimes, but not always, solve the problem.

I am convinced that the real barrier is physiological. Our brains and testes no longer produce the right mix of hormones, neurotransmitters, prostaglandins, peptides, and whatever else is of relevance to afford us the bliss of really satisfying orgasms. While pharmaceutical connoctions to uplift orgasm quality are so far not available, the closest to achieving the desired result is the Southeast Asian herbal tongkat ali. Amzingly enough, it can go a great distance towards restoring a youthful mix Of hormones, neurotransmitters, prostaglandines, and peptides.